The lovely Stoya™, in a bath tub filled with play money, with self-bedazzled pasties on her chest and a miniature recreation of Zuccotti Park on her head.
She is in the middle.
I was able to quickly set up a feed with a young woman in a spaghetti string white tank top. Our conversation didn’t get deep, the language barrier was formidable. But she did note that I was not a man (wave!), and we established that both our cameras were, in fact, working (thumbs up!). My gender didn’t stop her from sending me dozens of rose emoticons after my trial ran out, and typing messages like “hey ..dear reply please ..” and “i like you so much …………..
Anne VanderMay finds out how to buy a modern mail-order bride.
The Morning After Pill is free at last.
The idea that men are naturally more interested in sex than women is so ubiquitous that it’s difficult to imagine that people ever believed differently. And yet for most of Western history, from ancient Greece to beginning of the nineteenth century, women were assumed to be the sex-crazed porn fiends of their day.
“When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men” by Alyssa Goldstein
If someone writes the world’s hottest novel, what is Funny or Die going to do with that? No one is going to record Gilbert Gottfried reading it.
Lux Alptraum on why erotica gets no respect.
I met Ron Jeremy today.
We’re thrilled to be a finalist for general excellence in the 2013 Utne Media Awards! Congrats to all the other nominees.
Some directors will specifically request a red lip for a scene. That’s rare—you can imagine the mess that creates.
I talked with Melissa “Makeup” Murphy, makeup artist to porn stars.
A commenter reviews Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In.
No means no,” but it is not the only measure of consent. “Borderline assault” isn’t just something you feel after the fact. And though terms like “gray rape” help some people talk about assault outside of the context of the legal system, they shouldn’t be used to excuse the aggressor—they should help raise the standard of what we all consider acceptable sexual behavior, whether or not the cops are called. When you care even one bit about how your partner feels while you are actually having sex with them, it’s impossible to be so confused.
Women don’t just need to lean in. They need to carefully calibrate the angle of their approach to suit every possible scenario. When Sheryl Sandberg is in “feminist manifesto” mode, she is honest about this. She admits that navigating the double standards of the American workplace is as easy as “trying to cross a minefield backward in high heels.” But when she flips to memoir, the implication is that she tilted herself just-so and that other women can, too.
the real problem with Sheryl Sandberg’s Lean In isn’t that she’s out of touch. It’s that her advice makes no sense.