“She was awful about me. A real cunt. It could have broken my heart, hearing this woman who had inspired me so much talking about how my body was a crime, but somehow it didn’t, because I think I understand her. She was there to totally crack open our sense of what a woman could be, what her place was, what her voice was.”
— Lena Dunham on Joan Rivers
6:06 pm • 5 September 2014
Anonymous said: why do you hate men so much? Bad relationship? Frisky Uncle?
frisky relationships and good uncles
8:27 pm • 28 August 2014
“Our misandry, like the wings of the butterfly, is too beautiful to pull apart in order to see its workings.”
— The Toast co-founder Nicole Cliffe, on the rise of ironic misandry.
10:06 am • 9 August 2014
“When I was a little girl, I got annoyed when my dad veered us off the trail to cut through the forest, always concerned that I wouldn’t be able to find my way back on my own. But now, I was worried about someone other than myself. In my eagerness to get older, I hadn’t considered that my parents would age with me.”
— I wrote about how my dad taught me about growing up, and then growing old, in the great outdoors.
3:00 pm • 14 June 2014
“Yes, Twitter is public. But that’s a sentence that would have been entirely meaningless just 10 years ago. Journalists haven’t fully grappled with exactly what it means. Reporters interested in public opinion used to have to actually go outside, meet people—or at least call them on the phone—and identify themselves as journalists. Now, Twitter connects us to 230 million active users who publish a combined 500 million tweets every single day, giving us a direct line to random acts of advocacy and casual expressions of bigotry. The new, virtual man on the street doesn’t even need to be aware of a reporter’s existence in order to turn up on a highly trafficked news source with name, photo, and social media contact information embedded. It’s the journalist’s “right” to reproduce these public statements, sure. But our rights are expanding radically, while our responsibilities to our sources are becoming more and more optional.”
— I wrote about whether everything ever posted on social media is fair game for journalists to turn into news.
8:21 pm • 19 March 2014
“On the Internet, women are overpowered and devalued. We don’t always think about our online lives in those terms—after all, our days are filled with work to do, friends to keep up with, Netflix to watch. But when anonymous harassers come along—saying they would like to rape us, or cut off our heads, or scrutinize our bodies in public, or shame us for our sexual habits—they serve to remind us in ways both big and small that we can’t be at ease online. It is precisely the banality of Internet harassment, University of Miami law professor Mary Anne Franks has argued, that makes it “both so effective and so harmful, especially as a form of discrimination.””
— "Why Women Aren’t Welcome on the Internet," my cover story on online harassment, in Pacific Standard.
5:48 pm • 6 January 2014
“Here’s how to convince your bosses (or your employees) that you’re working very hard from home when you’re actually doing something totally worthless, like spending time with your children.”
— How to fake “working remotely” while home for the holidays.
10:25 am • 20 December 2013
“Here is when the entertainment industry will stop working with creeps: (1) When the creep dies; (2) When the creep is imprisoned; (3) When the creep stops making lots and lots and lots of money.”
— Why stars you admire (Beyonce) will always work with stars you despise (Terry Richardson).
3:15 pm • 18 December 2013
“This isn’t just about the books. When young women read the hyper-masculine literary canon—what Emily Gould calls the “midcentury misogynists,” staffed with the likes of Roth, Mailer, and Miller—their discomfort is punctuated by the knowledge that their male peers are reading these books, identifying with them, and acting out their perspectives and narratives.”
— Amanda Hess on NO REGRETS (from n+1) in Slate. (via skeery)
1:15 am • 10 December 2013